I have read Proverbs 16-19 today. In this past year I have reflected I have a marriage that I see is in great need of work, or should I say I need work. Communication is our down fall. I have no problem communicating, it is the way I communicate. I am an overall happy person, very optimistic, married to a glass half full man. I guess I get irritated when he doesn't see things my way ( ya'll can laugh here). So God has put strongly on my heart that he is in charge of changing and teaching my husband not me, and I need to concentrate how I react to circumstances. I didn't realize this before but I put higher standards on my family than I do myself. This is so painful to realize. Therefore I tend to nag. Ugh, I hate that word, it is not a part of my character. At least not the character trait I want to show blue ribbon prize in!
... and a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping.
Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.
A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions.
He who answers before listening-that is his folly and his shame.
So this is how I look to my husband and my daughters at times when I think I am right all the time, when "I think" I know why he said or why he did... I feel so awful. I want to be the wife that supports, loves, understands and makes him a better man, not bring him down and point out his faults on a daily basis. And the same for my daughters as well. So here are some Proverbs that I am trying to be a more of a reflection of...
A happy heart makes the face cheerful....
A cheerful look brings joy to the heart, and good news gives health to the bones.
Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.
Proverbs 17: 27
A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is eventemptered.
Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
I pray that God not only writes these on my heart but carves them with his strongest tool for this very hard clay pot! There are so many other verses out that that relate to the tongue and thoughts so feel free to share yours that are written on your heart in times of weakness!